Spice up your Love Life

by TeaLady on March 29, 2010

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We are often finding herbal remedies popping up in publications, articles, and news clips. In conversations with friends, it has become the norm to offer or receive a recipe or tea or tincture suggestion to combat a cold, or achey joints. Even some savvy family doctors are starting to suggest chicken soup or ginger tea before writing that prescription for antibiotics.

Let’s take it one step further and think about how to spice up our love life with herbs. Everybody wants to feel loved, everybody needs to have a little fun and every relationship needs to change it up once in a while.

There are a number of herbs that are associated with your love life and with your libido. The first one I’d like to discuss is Oatstraw because it is the safest, most nourishing, and most beneficial to the body overall. The popular herbalist “Susun Weed” calls oatstraw the “modern day love potion”. In her Wise Woman Herbal she says “oats and oatstraw nourish the nerves so you receive more pleasure from touching; the glands so your juices are on the move; your heart and blood vessels so blood can circulate freely to the pelvis; and your ability to be intimate with others so your love-making is deeply satisfying” I often recommend oatstraw to deal with anxiety, stress and depression. These are enemies to a healthy love life, but a pot or large mug of oatstraw each day smooths out the kinks (leaving you energy for different sort of kink).

Ginseng has long been used in chinese medicine to enhance male virility. There have been many studies finding that laboratory animals had increased copulatory activity after being administered ginseng. Anyone who has eaten fresh ginseng will know that it does give you energy. there are many other health benefits of using ginseng but it is very powerful and I would warn that it is not for everyone. I personally was uncomfortable with the energy of ginseng and felt I had to stop taking it. I recommend it as more of a male herb; that’s my own intuitive feeling about the herb.

Damiana, a small aromatic bush from Texas and Northern Mexico is used to flavor a liquor, and is found in Mexican teas, desserts and candies. Ellingwood, a hardworking early 20th century Chicago physician who was noted for editing a respected scientific journal and for his advocacy of women physicians wrote about damiana “a mild nerve tonic claimed to be valuable in the treatment of sexual impotence. Some of our physicians praise it highly for it’s influence in sexual neurasthenia, and it is said to correct frigidity in the female”

The theme here seems to be nerves, and energy so think about relaxing, getting enough sleep, being happy and calm. What better way to adjust your state of mind after a busy day than to take a luxurious bath. The easiest way to romanticized your favorite bubbles or oils is to add some essential oils as you are running the water. Only a few drops of jasmine, ylang ylang, rosewood or patchouli should take you to another level and make you feel all musky and amorous.

makeup brushAdd your favorite essential oils to a base of almond, grape seed or whatever unscented oil you have around and sit the bottle in a deep bowl of hot water to warm them. Have this on the night stand to send a clear message. Or if oils don’t ring your bell you can go the opposite way. Find a clean feather duster or a huge soft make-up brush and a bowl of corn starch scented with your favorite essential oils. You can figure out what to do from there. But the theme of this years herbfest is “SPICE IT UP” -Can you figure out what to do with cayenne pepper?

Nothing spells romance to me better than a red-hot spicy meal. Did you know that cayenne pepper has a special oil in it that affects the same receptors that register pain? So your brain kicks in and tells your body to produce “feel-good” endorphins. If your loved one is brave enough to eat a red-hot chili or garnish anything with a favorite hot sauce, you are likely to be riding a wave of endorphins together, right up to the bedroom. Don’t forget dessert! Chocolate is always a favorite, whipped cream is a must, and do-it-yourself dipping can sometimes get interesting.

Rosemary Gladstar has been practicing herbology and writing books for over 30 years. She has a recipe for chocolate romantic energy treats.

Be sure the herbs are finely powdered or else you’ll be picking out little chunks of non-chewable roots.

1 part ginseng powder
2 parts Eleutherococcus Senticosus, Eleuthero (Siberian ginseng) powder
3 parts pumpkin seeds, powdered
1/2 part Spirulina or Super Blue Green Algae®
1 part ginkgo or gotu kola powder
1 cup sesame butter (tahini)
1/2 cup honey
1/2 cup crushed almonds
Coconut, cocoa powder, raisins, chocolate or carob chips, and granola for flavor
Carob powder or powdered milk
1. Combine powdered herbs and mix well.
2. Combine the sesame butter and honey, mixing to form a paste. If you want your Energy Balls to be sweeter, add more honey.
3. Add enough of the powdered herbs to thicken, then add the almonds and optional additions. Thicken to desired consistency with carob powder or powdered milk. Roll into walnut-size balls. Eat two Energy Balls daily.

Rosemary writes in her book “Family Herbal”:
One year, I wanted to make something special for several of my older neighbors who were going on a holiday cruise. In the midst of making my Energy Balls, some devious little creatur took over and they became Aphrodite’s Super-Aphrodisiac Balls. I added passion-promoting flavors such as black cherry liqueur, then a host of aphrodisiac herbs, plus a tablespoon or two of guarana, just to keep things moving. The final touch was coating them each with organic bitter-sweet dipping chocolate. My neighbors loved them! Tehy came back and said, “What in the world did you put in those balls?” To this day, people I don’t even know sometimes accost me on the streets of my little Vermont town and ask, “Are you the woman who made those chocolate herb balls for my friends on that cruise?” This is always followed by, “Will you make some for me?”

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Sue Risk February 14, 2012 at 11:35 am

Hi Bonnie, such a nice article, and I never forget that February is heart month! Time to get something going again toward the spring, after a month of being “shut-in” by the bitter cold.
I love the freshness of your ideas, and I am also writing in to say that Dr. James Green, a naturopath and physician, wrote a book called The Male Herbal. (will lend it if you want) Pumpkin seeds, believe it or not, are on his list along with Saw Palmetto as an actual tonic and stimulant toward natural HRT, or to nourish and cleanse the mans genitals and hormonal system.
The recipe sounds enticing! I love your attractive and unusual arts theme for the blog, too! Love Sue Risk (coffee lady!!!!)

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